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Wednesday, October 20, 2010
A Change of Heart..
In Chapter 13, Holden changes his mind about being intimate with Sunny.
Prompt:
Write about a time you agreed to do something, then changed your mind once you found out what it entailed.
Responses should be respectful and thought provoking.
Most often, when I decided to get involved in something or do something for someone in general, I think about what it is going to entail in order to reach the desired outcome. The majority of the time, I fully understand what I am getting into when I say I agree to do something although, occasionally I have realized that the task required too much and was going to be an extremely difficult goal to accomplish. An example of a time when I had a change of heart, was when a guy friend of mine asked me to try and set him up with a girl who was totally out of his league. Immediately, I agreed to help him because I wanted my friend to be happy and I knew he was really dying to get a shot with her. My friend began to tell me what I would need to do in order to set them up and everything he mentioned seemed unrealistic and difficult to make happen. I thought for a little while longer and it dawned on me that it is impossible to make someone have feelings for someone else and I really doubted the girl would feel the same way my friend did. Nicely, I backed out of the agreement because I felt as if setting them up would be an overall failure and only make him more upset when he was rejected. Although, often times it is uncomfortable to change your mind, it is also necessary because if your heart isn’t fully in something and you go in with the mindset that the goal is unreachable, you’ll put a damper on everything.
The Indian giver, a term that is used in context with someone who has either made a bet and taken back what they promised to give in return for their loss or someone who has maybe made a promise to a friend and forgot they had prior obligations. Theo once has invited me over and I said "yea thats awesome" but later on that day I found out that my mom had already made dinner plans with another family that i had to attend to. Things like these complicate my plans and annoy me immensely because then i cant hang out with a friend i want to hang out with. I also made a bet with someone, then changed my mind about it. Luke
This is something i have had a lot of experience with in my life. Like Luke said i have known my fair share of Indian givers. When i was younger i made plans to go to a friends house and then i found out that when i got there he had forgotten all about and went on errands with his mom. This is an extreme case of being an Indian giver. This also relates to Holden and Sunny because Holden is getting cold feet. Which is the same sort of thing as being an Indian giver.
Throughout my life, although more recently in middle school and high school, there have been times where I’ve agreed to do something and then chosen to take back my agreement after finding out what was entailed. I came across one of these experiences last year in my geometry class. I was in a class of only thirteen people, so we became pretty close with one another and with our teacher Ms. Hoover. One day in the middle of the year (around December or so), I was walking into class ready to take a test when another girl in my class stepped in front of me and blocked my entrance into the classroom. Before I had the chance to say a word and ask her why she jumped in front of me, she started begging me for help. I didn’t know what she needed help with at the time and she was freaking out, so I agreed to help her. Little did I know when she asked me for help that she was asking for permission to cheat off of me on the test. When she asked me to help her on the test my jaw dropped and I felt myself start to panic. I felt bad having to take back my agreement to help her, but I knew that there was no way I would let her copy off of me. After all, I had busted my butt studying for that test, and it was evident that she hadn’t even taken the time to look over her notes. It was definitely difficult having to say no to her face, especially as she continued to make up excuses as to why I should help her. However, I successfully stood my ground and ultimately wound up sitting as far away from her as possible.
A time when I was one asked to do something that at first I didn’t know the details of which was when a friend of mine asked me if I wanted to go to the mall and hang out. When I arrived we all went to a candy store and I saw some of my friends taking things off the shelves and stealing them. I couldn’t believe it I didn’t know that my friends stole anything I always thought my friends had more class but they just kept on stealing the candy. But the worst part was I didn’t try to stop them. I wasn’t going to be the guy that kills everyone’s fun and that makes me think of a question that I can’t seem to answer. If someone you know or cared about was doing something wrong would you stop them and would you face the repercussions that are caused by your actions. But I digress. When my friends asked if I was going to join in I didn’t know what to say but I believe I made the right choice by saying no and leaving. Nobody told my that we were going out to steal. Next time I know to ask specifics. Chris Morris
There are many times when I have agreed to do something. Sometimes it could have been because I didn’t know what it entailed although usually I think about the decisions that I make. Other times I agree do something and I forget that I am busy. For example, recently my friend called me to hang out and I agreed, but later I realized that I was busy with other thing. By not thinking about my decisions first, I disappointed my friend by changing my mind.
Throughout my life there had been many occasions where I had agreed to do something, but usually I take the time before to think about what it entails. My personality includes the trait of worrying about the smallest things so before a commitment I would most likely over analyze the situation. Recently, over the summer I was in Wildwood, New Jersey with my friends about to slide down a waterslide. They had begged me to go on the slide to have fun with them and after a while I agreed. This vacation was just a couple weeks after my surgery and I did not want to risk anything but it sounded like too much fun to pass up, after all I wasn’t going to be in Wildwood for much longer. My friends kept reassuring me that I was over reacting and I would be okay but by the time that I had reached the tubes to begin the adventure, I panicked. Looking down at the view from the top of the swirly ride I felt butterflies in my stomach that I shouldn’t follow through. It was difficult explaining to them that I was afraid to go on but I explained to them my reasoning and stepped out of the line. Despite being in an uncomfortable situation to back out of the slide, I thought it would be best to stick with my gut feeling which would ultimately be safer.
There have been multiple occasions where I had wanted to hang out with a friend but had never actually gotten around to. Once during the summer me and a friend of mine had wanted to hang out at the pool she lives near but never got around to because it had been to late and wouldn't have been there very long.
Usually when i agree to do something i usually ask what it entails, because you don't want to make a promise that you don't even know what it entails. One time my friend asked me to a favor for him and i said yes with knowing what it was. So when i saw him next i said what does the favor entail. And it was something moving a bunch of things and i asked him the day of when he needed the help. And on that day it was my dads birthday and i couldn't help him. Even though i could have done even though i didn't know what entailed at first i actually couldn't do it so you should never make a promise without knowing the job and without knowing if u are able to do it.
Before I know what it really entails, I usually just agree with something. I know that what I do really messes up with what other people’s schedules and it will probably make them mad. I just agree automatically without thinking too deeply about it. One time I agreed to do my friend’s homework because my friend was really busy that day. So without thinking, I said yes. Later on, I was thinking what I had agreed upon and noticed that it was wrong, no matter what. So I said I wouldn’t do it to my friend which made her mad since it messed up her schedule. But I think she understood since she is still friends with me.
i mean generally i never agree to do something before i know what it is, but thats just how i am. besides, who wants to end up doing something they would have never agreed to in the first place had they known what it was? one time my friend asked me to support her in a time when she felt she needed the support(you feel me). so ofcourse i agreed being the gentleman that i am. but down the road i found out that i straight up did not have the time for all that and it just created too much conflicts with my schedule. so eventually i had to go back on my promise, mainly because i wouldve never made it in the first place if i had known what it entailed. real talk.
I remember a time where someones life was actually on the line and i had to really see the behind the scene fear of the situation. Some people just are not ready in those situations and its their choice if they want to act on it or not. Last year I trained to be a lifegaurd for half the year, so when i was all signed up to work as a lifegaurd down at the local pool i was thrilled. I thought i could just sit up in that chair all day, work on my tan and pretty much get paid for just sitting there and watching people. Well my perspective of that sharply changed as soon as i saw this kid struggling in the deep end. I blew my whistle at him to see if he was in need of help, which of course he was. So i stared at this kid in the water for a solid two or three secounds before i dived into the water and helped the kid swim to the side. But in those two or three secounds i was terrified and had to make a decision, i could have called the other lifegaurd on duty to help, if i felt i wasnt ready for it. But i knew i was and so i had to do something even though i was unsure of it. Now i know Holden's situation is different because it was about having or not having sex but it still all comes down to the choice you make. Laura McKinsey
Once upon a time, I was reduced to going on the water slide. I didnt mind..Had there not been the fact that the one guy I liked, was working there for that shift and I never knew what to say to him. But my cousin(Gabby Camacho) nagged me and nagged me until she made me feel bad. So as I walked up the stairs to the slide and she ran I looked up to see if he had noticed that I was going up there. Low and behold; he was staring at me...Good stuff I thought to myself(with a sarcastic tone). As we waited on line. He was getting closer and closer until he asked the fateful question... "Hi, whats your name." Now had I known what I was in for I wouldve never gone up there. And it wasnt that I was talkimg to him...It was what happened next. I chatted with him before I had to go down. Meanwhile my friend Shannon was messing with my bathing suit top. As I told Jeremy(The guy I liked) that I'd be back up, Shannon pulled the string of my bathing suit top while i went to go down the slide. Now, nothing flew off..Or fell off...But it wasnt good because as I came out of the pool where the slide lets us out i was holding my top and looking up because I knew Jeremy had seen Shannon pull it and he asked me if i was good....Embarrassing was to say the least i was completely flabergasted at the fact that i couldve potentionally scarred children and gave the impression that it was cool to pull my bikini string -__- But comparing to Holdens situation. Its completely different because it deals with more of a serious matter. Where as mine was just the sake of not makinf a fool out of myself in front of my crush. But in any case both were dealing of the same decision sort. The end...
Jennifer Blum
ReplyDeleteMost often, when I decided to get involved in something or do something for someone in general, I think about what it is going to entail in order to reach the desired outcome. The majority of the time, I fully understand what I am getting into when I say I agree to do something although, occasionally I have realized that the task required too much and was going to be an extremely difficult goal to accomplish. An example of a time when I had a change of heart, was when a guy friend of mine asked me to try and set him up with a girl who was totally out of his league. Immediately, I agreed to help him because I wanted my friend to be happy and I knew he was really dying to get a shot with her. My friend began to tell me what I would need to do in order to set them up and everything he mentioned seemed unrealistic and difficult to make happen. I thought for a little while longer and it dawned on me that it is impossible to make someone have feelings for someone else and I really doubted the girl would feel the same way my friend did. Nicely, I backed out of the agreement because I felt as if setting them up would be an overall failure and only make him more upset when he was rejected. Although, often times it is uncomfortable to change your mind, it is also necessary because if your heart isn’t fully in something and you go in with the mindset that the goal is unreachable, you’ll put a damper on everything.
The Indian giver, a term that is used in context with someone who has either made a bet and taken back what they promised to give in return for their loss or someone who has maybe made a promise to a friend and forgot they had prior obligations. Theo once has invited me over and I said "yea thats awesome" but later on that day I found out that my mom had already made dinner plans with another family that i had to attend to. Things like these complicate my plans and annoy me immensely because then i cant hang out with a friend i want to hang out with. I also made a bet with someone, then changed my mind about it.
ReplyDeleteLuke
This is something i have had a lot of experience with in my life. Like Luke said i have known my fair share of Indian givers. When i was younger i made plans to go to a friends house and then i found out that when i got there he had forgotten all about and went on errands with his mom. This is an extreme case of being an Indian giver. This also relates to Holden and Sunny because Holden is getting cold feet. Which is the same sort of thing as being an Indian giver.
ReplyDeleteThroughout my life, although more recently in middle school and high school, there have been times where I’ve agreed to do something and then chosen to take back my agreement after finding out what was entailed. I came across one of these experiences last year in my geometry class. I was in a class of only thirteen people, so we became pretty close with one another and with our teacher Ms. Hoover. One day in the middle of the year (around December or so), I was walking into class ready to take a test when another girl in my class stepped in front of me and blocked my entrance into the classroom. Before I had the chance to say a word and ask her why she jumped in front of me, she started begging me for help. I didn’t know what she needed help with at the time and she was freaking out, so I agreed to help her. Little did I know when she asked me for help that she was asking for permission to cheat off of me on the test. When she asked me to help her on the test my jaw dropped and I felt myself start to panic. I felt bad having to take back my agreement to help her, but I knew that there was no way I would let her copy off of me. After all, I had busted my butt studying for that test, and it was evident that she hadn’t even taken the time to look over her notes. It was definitely difficult having to say no to her face, especially as she continued to make up excuses as to why I should help her. However, I successfully stood my ground and ultimately wound up sitting as far away from her as possible.
ReplyDeleteAmy Carton
A time when I was one asked to do something that at first I didn’t know the details of which was when a friend of mine asked me if I wanted to go to the mall and hang out. When I arrived we all went to a candy store and I saw some of my friends taking things off the shelves and stealing them. I couldn’t believe it I didn’t know that my friends stole anything I always thought my friends had more class but they just kept on stealing the candy. But the worst part was I didn’t try to stop them. I wasn’t going to be the guy that kills everyone’s fun and that makes me think of a question that I can’t seem to answer. If someone you know or cared about was doing something wrong would you stop them and would you face the repercussions that are caused by your actions. But I digress. When my friends asked if I was going to join in I didn’t know what to say but I believe I made the right choice by saying no and leaving. Nobody told my that we were going out to steal. Next time I know to ask specifics.
ReplyDeleteChris Morris
There are many times when I have agreed to do something. Sometimes it could have been because I didn’t know what it entailed although usually I think about the decisions that I make. Other times I agree do something and I forget that I am busy. For example, recently my friend called me to hang out and I agreed, but later I realized that I was busy with other thing. By not thinking about my decisions first, I disappointed my friend by changing my mind.
ReplyDeleteThroughout my life there had been many occasions where I had agreed to do something, but usually I take the time before to think about what it entails. My personality includes the trait of worrying about the smallest things so before a commitment I would most likely over analyze the situation. Recently, over the summer I was in Wildwood, New Jersey with my friends about to slide down a waterslide. They had begged me to go on the slide to have fun with them and after a while I agreed. This vacation was just a couple weeks after my surgery and I did not want to risk anything but it sounded like too much fun to pass up, after all I wasn’t going to be in Wildwood for much longer. My friends kept reassuring me that I was over reacting and I would be okay but by the time that I had reached the tubes to begin the adventure, I panicked. Looking down at the view from the top of the swirly ride I felt butterflies in my stomach that I shouldn’t follow through. It was difficult explaining to them that I was afraid to go on but I explained to them my reasoning and stepped out of the line. Despite being in an uncomfortable situation to back out of the slide, I thought it would be best to stick with my gut feeling which would ultimately be safer.
ReplyDeleteCasey Rinker
There have been multiple occasions where I had wanted to hang out with a friend but had never actually gotten around to. Once during the summer me and a friend of mine had wanted to hang out at the pool she lives near but never got around to because it had been to late and wouldn't have been there very long.
ReplyDeletesorry that was Emma Potts
ReplyDeleteUsually when i agree to do something i usually ask what it entails, because you don't want to make a promise that you don't even know what it entails. One time my friend asked me to a favor for him and i said yes with knowing what it was. So when i saw him next i said what does the favor entail. And it was something moving a bunch of things and i asked him the day of when he needed the help. And on that day it was my dads birthday and i couldn't help him. Even though i could have done even though i didn't know what entailed at first i actually couldn't do it so you should never make a promise without knowing the job and without knowing if u are able to do it.
ReplyDeleteBrian Goldstein
Before I know what it really entails, I usually just agree with something. I know that what I do really messes up with what other people’s schedules and it will probably make them mad. I just agree automatically without thinking too deeply about it. One time I agreed to do my friend’s homework because my friend was really busy that day. So without thinking, I said yes. Later on, I was thinking what I had agreed upon and noticed that it was wrong, no matter what. So I said I wouldn’t do it to my friend which made her mad since it messed up her schedule. But I think she understood since she is still friends with me.
ReplyDeleteMaya Ogure
i mean generally i never agree to do something before i know what it is, but thats just how i am. besides, who wants to end up doing something they would have never agreed to in the first place had they known what it was? one time my friend asked me to support her in a time when she felt she needed the support(you feel me). so ofcourse i agreed being the gentleman that i am. but down the road i found out that i straight up did not have the time for all that and it just created too much conflicts with my schedule. so eventually i had to go back on my promise, mainly because i wouldve never made it in the first place if i had known what it entailed. real talk.
ReplyDeleteJason Falasca
I remember a time where someones life was actually on the line and i had to really see the behind the scene fear of the situation. Some people just are not ready in those situations and its their choice if they want to act on it or not. Last year I trained to be a lifegaurd for half the year, so when i was all signed up to work as a lifegaurd down at the local pool i was thrilled. I thought i could just sit up in that chair all day, work on my tan and pretty much get paid for just sitting there and watching people. Well my perspective of that sharply changed as soon as i saw this kid struggling in the deep end. I blew my whistle at him to see if he was in need of help, which of course he was. So i stared at this kid in the water for a solid two or three secounds before i dived into the water and helped the kid swim to the side. But in those two or three secounds i was terrified and had to make a decision, i could have called the other lifegaurd on duty to help, if i felt i wasnt ready for it. But i knew i was and so i had to do something even though i was unsure of it. Now i know Holden's situation is different because it was about having or not having sex but it still all comes down to the choice you make.
ReplyDeleteLaura McKinsey
Once upon a time, I was reduced to going on the water slide. I didnt mind..Had there not been the fact that the one guy I liked, was working there for that shift and I never knew what to say to him. But my cousin(Gabby Camacho) nagged me and nagged me until she made me feel bad. So as I walked up the stairs to the slide and she ran I looked up to see if he had noticed that I was going up there. Low and behold; he was staring at me...Good stuff I thought to myself(with a sarcastic tone). As we waited on line. He was getting closer and closer until he asked the fateful question... "Hi, whats your name." Now had I known what I was in for I wouldve never gone up there. And it wasnt that I was talkimg to him...It was what happened next. I chatted with him before I had to go down. Meanwhile my friend Shannon was messing with my bathing suit top. As I told Jeremy(The guy I liked) that I'd be back up, Shannon pulled the string of my bathing suit top while i went to go down the slide. Now, nothing flew off..Or fell off...But it wasnt good because as I came out of the pool where the slide lets us out i was holding my top and looking up because I knew Jeremy had seen Shannon pull it and he asked me if i was good....Embarrassing was to say the least i was completely flabergasted at the fact that i couldve potentionally scarred children and gave the impression that it was cool to pull my bikini string -__- But comparing to Holdens situation. Its completely different because it deals with more of a serious matter. Where as mine was just the sake of not makinf a fool out of myself in front of my crush. But in any case both were dealing of the same decision sort. The end...
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